tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16408662.post1591288067533343159..comments2023-05-12T05:34:21.499-04:00Comments on Being Kate: On a Serious Note-I'll be Funny Again Soon!Katehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09320966027459989422noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16408662.post-45927070392887329182008-01-30T14:09:00.000-05:002008-01-30T14:09:00.000-05:00I think its normal. I've let a lot of things go ov...I think its normal. I've let a lot of things go over the years, but I still have some baggage left over. I like to tell myself to feel no guilt and have no regrets, but its a lot of work. The way I see it is all the stuff that happened in the past has made me the person I am today. I kinda like that person.mmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08626707689351298252noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16408662.post-4740218864260485802008-01-30T11:58:00.000-05:002008-01-30T11:58:00.000-05:00I learned a long time ago (at age 22) that whateve...I learned a long time ago (at age 22) that whatever happened in the past is not something I want defining me as an adult. Stuff went down and it was horrible, but I talked it out with the offender and I told her I forgave her. It's not so much the forgivness part, but the releasing. By saying, "hey why am I holding onto this? It's hurting you, hurting me. For what?" It's freeing. You feel lighter. <BR/><BR/>Some might think it's weak minded, but I disagree. I hear that bible verse, "Forgive us our trespasses, <BR/>as we forgive those who trespass against us." I'm telling you every time I start to hold a grudge against someone who did me wrong(Did you hear a banjo start playing and then it broke out in a southern accent? Maybe it was just me.)I hear it every single time and it makes it impossible to stay angry and keep it.kismetsCIRCUShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13437227868674753821noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16408662.post-34002106823116564582008-01-30T08:44:00.000-05:002008-01-30T08:44:00.000-05:00This reminds me of the line in Rent when Mimi sing...This reminds me of the line in Rent when Mimi sings, "I'm looking for baggage that goes with mine." I think *all* of us hold on to things longer than we should. I didn't hold on to any events perse, but I definitely had some dysfunctional patterns of relating stemming from "issues" in childhood. I just had to accept what happened in the past and accept that certain relationships within my family weren't going to change, and then work on changing my communication patterns. It's a lot of work but it can *totally* be done!Anonymous Mehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17535873074365279392noreply@blogger.com