tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16408662.post116492365071908999..comments2023-05-12T05:34:21.499-04:00Comments on Being Kate: What a Wild RideKatehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09320966027459989422noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16408662.post-1165240684043122892006-12-04T08:58:00.000-05:002006-12-04T08:58:00.000-05:00That was a great post--more power to you! All of u...That was a great post--more power to you! All of us have at least one horribly bad habit we'd like to cure ourselves of completely (emotional eating, purging, whatever), but we never really can. You can get it under control, but unfortunately, when times are tough, you find that one choice sneaking back into your life and it's hard to keep saying "no." It's kind of like alcoholism, you know? It's *always* going to be there, but over time you can get it under control.<BR/>I know a lot of people with body distortion issues, so I know it will do no good for me to tell you that you look *amazing*, but for what it's worth--you do! :-) Hang in there!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16408662.post-1165070024050610242006-12-02T09:33:00.000-05:002006-12-02T09:33:00.000-05:00Great post. It takes a lot of courage to put yours...Great post. It takes a lot of courage to put yourself out there like that. It looks like you and I have a lot in common when it comes to dating guys. I too dated a guy for a little while that I didn't even think I liked that much and when he stopped contacting me one day, I freaked out. I immediately started over-romanticising him in my head and developed a major crush on him. Rejetion hurts and it's a big blow to the ego. It's kinda strange that most girls tend to gravitate towards guys that don't like us very much, while the nice guys (that we'd probably be more happy with!) are casted to the side. For the most part, you have to love yourself before you can ever be happy with someone else. Relationships are a great thing to be in, sometimes, but they aren't going to help you be completely happy with yourself. I've never seen you in person, but you look very pretty in your profile picture. Try not to worry about looks so much. There will always be girls that are "prettier". Ultimately, beauty fades. We all get older and we have to fall back on what really counts; our personality. True beauty comes from within. Love yourself and you will attract good, decent people that will love you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16408662.post-1164979452968025092006-12-01T08:24:00.000-05:002006-12-01T08:24:00.000-05:00I commend you for being so honest. It is hard to ...I commend you for being so honest. It is hard to accept that people like or love you for you, after you have been hurt. From your posts, it is obvious you have been very unhappy with your body image for years. You have lost weight which is hard for anyone- so of course it is going to consume your thoughts. When you go from being the one ignored (because of your body) and then you tone up and start to get a ton of attention, you realize a sad thing about society. Outer appearance means a great deal to most people. I am sure you question people, wondering, "do they like me for me or for what they see, or for what they think they can get?" That is really hard to sort out in your mind because due to your great experience of losing weight, you now have a tinted view of the way that you percieve people. (isn't it easier to be in a relationship when you are overweight because it is easier to see that the person loves you for you, not for the way that you look) I guess in your current situation it would help to take things slow (with all relationships; friends intimate, whatever)that way you get to know the other person. It allows you to find out if they really care about you as a person which happens to include your heart and your looks. It is a package deal you know. :) If they are not into the total package, they will split, or you will eventially figure out the other persons intentions. Just remember.. you are special, you are worth getting to know, and you are worth having a relationship with (again whether it is friendship or whatever). If a guy wants to take the time to get to know you and love you for the person that you are- enjoy that process! <BR/><BR/>I had more to say, but I think this is good. <BR/><BR/>PS- it's cool to vent you are human<BR/><BR/>*Your favorite anonymous cyber friend*Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com